Children of local soldiers reflect on affects of deployment on
their families
By Pryce Hadley,
18 and Joseph Short, 16, with contributions by Uvie Adah, 12,
Afure Adah, 10, and Carlie Coccia, 13.
Everyday
countless stories can be heard concerning the struggles and
victories
of the
over one hundred thousand US troops stationed abroad. These
reports
account skirmishes in such locations as Baghdad or Fallujah
and detail the daily life of those in the armed forces. But
rarely
do they address the affect of the average soldier’s deployment
on his or her family.
Kylee
Jannausch, fifteen, and Taylor Jannausch, ten, of Ishpeming,
are the
daughters of Sergeant Bill Jannausch who was last year
deployed to Iraq with the local 107th Engineering Battalion.
Jannausch serves as a medic and he also teaches classes on
base to his fellow National Guardsmen during his spare time.
This
is Jannausch’s second tour of duty in Iraq and his
redeployment has worried his family; however, the prior experience
has helped
them to cope.
“
We were all kind of shocked and surprised (at a second deployment),
but we all knew that it’s not any easier for him, so we
have to be the strong ones back here,” Kylee said. “Because
if we’re not OK, he’s not.”
The deployment of Ishpeming resident Frank Carlson, another
sergeant with the 107th Engineering Battalion who serves
as a heavy equipment
operator, came as a surprise to his family as well, especially
to his three sons—Peter, eleven; Derek, fourteen; and
Zach, sixteen.
Zach said he had to come to grips with his dad’s deployment.
“
At first it was more of a shock, kind of like, ‘Oh, this
isn’t true—he can’t be going over,’” Zach
said. “But later on, it kind of hit me and I realized that
he actually was going over, and I kind of had a feeling like, ‘Why
is it him?’ I was extremely sad about it.”
With a projected deployment of sixteen to eighteen months the
absence of a family member can present many hardships for those
still in the states. From arranging rides to extracurricular
events, to maintaining contact over thousands of miles, problems
can arise.
Yet with emerging technology, such as Web cams, even the
distance can’t stop families from communicating with
loved ones abroad. Such technology is especially important
for Derek.
“
He calls us sometimes, and we talk to him on the Internet using
instant messenger,” Derek said. “And, we have web
cams, so we can see him while we talk to him. Usually I’ll
wait on-line and wait for him to come on, and when he does I’ll
talk with him for about an hour or hour and a half. It makes
me feel good.”
Taylor also makes a habit of corresponding with her father
as often as possible.
“
Me and my dad email almost every day, and almost every night
he calls, but with the time change it’s pretty late when
he calls, so I don’t get to talk to him very much,” Taylor
said. “But we also get to do Web cam along with IMs, so
that’s pretty cool.”
Aside from changes in communication with family members in
the armed forces, adjustments must be made to accomplish household
tasks. Derek said after his father was deployed he and his
brothers
took on additional responsibilities to assist their family.
“
He told me not to be worried, and that he’s going to be
OK, and to help my brother around the house and stuff, and start
fixing more things than I already do,” Derek said.
Although there are many challenges for families of the deployed,
a support network of friends and local families exists to assist
them in their struggles. Kylee said that such people have been
of great help.
“
My family helps a lot, and talking to my dad helps,” she
said. “And just knowing that everybody else is going
through it, too. There are a lot of families from around
here this time
that are going through the same thing. So it helps.”
The Carlson family has also benefited from sharing and uniting
with other families of members of the 107th Engineering Battalion.
“
Our friends have been supportive with us and they’ve been
helping us, and we’ve been sending care packages with their
stuff too, so everything is fine,” said Zach. “When
it first started out it was a little hectic, but it’s
gotten a lot better.”
Derek agrees with his brother that it is important to communicate
with and support, others dealing with similar difficulties.
“
I talk to my friends whose parents have had uncles and aunts
that have been deployed, and I try to help them with what they’re
doing and what they’re dealing with,” Derek said. “I
know it’s hard for them. I just try to be good friends
with them.”
Like other local children of deployed National Guardsmen Kylee
and Taylor must deal with the worries associated with the war
zone. This is especially difficult since their father was injured
during his last deployment when a bomb struck his base. Because
of this, they have opted not to watch the news.
“
After my dad’s last deployment and his injury we just stopped
watching the news because they usually show all the bad stuff,” Kaylee
said. “We try not to watch that stuff.”
Zach also worries about the safety of his father during his
first tour of duty.
“
I’m worried he’s going to get injured,” he
said. “Personally I don’t know what would happen
to the family if that were to happen. So we’re basically
praying that nothing is going to happen to him.”
While most families of the deployed understandably have fears,
some find comfort in knowing about the current events in Iraq.
For Derek, the news serves as a source of helping him keep
up to date with events in Iraq and helps reassure them that
his
father is all right.
“
I usually watch the news for about fifteen minutes when I wake
up just so I can get the main stuff on the war and see what’s
happening over there,” he said. “I make sure
things are going as planned.”
Peter uses the news as well, not for the current events, but
to reassure him that is father is out of harm's way.
“
Hopefully I don’t see anything concerning my dad,” Peter
said.
Even though Frank Carlson has been in harms way and is
risking his life serving in Iraq, this doesn’t make
his children think of military service in a negative way.
In fact, all
three boys say they may consider the military in the future.
Peter
believes that military service is highly important
“
I feel it’s right to protect our country, the same way
as my dad does,” he said.
Derek too, sees the military as choice, but thinks it may be
difficult to leave the local area to go abroad.
“
I see it as a possibility of me joining the armed forces or military,
and it’ll be a hard decision to make because I’m
trying to stay around in town or maybe get a job around here
and not have to go overseas or anything,” he said.
Bill Jannausch’s daughters are supportive of military
servicemen and women but are not as sure that the military
would be a choice
for them. Kylee is extremely confident about this.
“
I’m really proud of them for what they’re doing,
but no thank you,” she said.
Taylor agreed.
“
I’m proud of what they’re doing over there and everything,
but I don’t see it in my near future,” she
said.
After coping with the prolonged absence of a family member,
and the worries inherent in military deployment, many children
find
it hard to agree with peers who seem not to value loved
ones. Zach said his father’s tours of duty have made
him cherish his time with his father more so than ever
before.
“
Some of my friends I hear complaining that they don’t get
along with their parents, and saying they can’t wait until
they’re eighteen to move out,” Zach said. “When
I hear that I’m just kind of thinking in my head, cherish
it while you can (because) one moment you’ll be with
your family and happy, and then the next moment they could
be gone.”
Above all, these children of deployed military members
hope for the safe return of their loved ones and anticipate
once
again
being able to spend time with them. Yet they know their
parents’ experiences
while on duty will inevitably change the family. Having lived
through such a process before, following her father’s
return from Iraq, Kylee is prepared to give him time to
become re-accustomed
to civilian life. She also understands that after this
challenge has been overcome her family will be stronger.
“
I’m excited for him to come home, but from what we learned
last time it takes them a really long time to get used to going
to family functions and being around a lot of people,” she
said. “And it takes him a long time to get used to people
asking about being in the war and us even asking questions. And
it takes at least a year before they really want to talk about
what happened over there. So it takes a long time for them to
reconnect. But when you do reconnect, you’re a lot
closer.”